Secrets Guys Keep From Your Their Partners

It is often preached that as a loving couple in a relationship you should never keep any secrets. Both parties should tell all and bare all. . . But the question is, in reality, is that possible? I have been through this with my partner and she is adamant that we should bare all and read each other like open books. But I know for a fact that there are some things that I wish to keep to myself. Like the fact that once in a while I will download some porn and watch while she is out with the girls or whatever. Lately it has suddenly become very important for her to know every single thing about me. . . I have tried my best to open up but there are the dark spots where no light is ever allowed to shine. And I think that I am not the only guy that feels this way. There are some things that girls are just not allowed to know. And I find that the only reason we hide this stuff from them is simply because we know she will throw a fit about how a jerk you are for checking out chicks while you are out together on a date. Or, how little love you have for her because you sometimes fantasize about doing two chicks at once while you two are making love. . . The only time that a guy can comfortably tell their partner about those dark hidden spots is if the outcome of the conversation doesn't leave you bruised from being kicked in the nuts. And you gotta admit, those are rare. So here is a list of some things that I have not been able to bare for my beloved. You can comment and add some things that you will never divulge.

1. I will never tell her that I sometimes look at and even admire some chick in the mall. Even though I may look, I never touch or do more than just day hi. In my previous bachelor days I would chat up a girl I had just met at the store and we would end up going on a date within 3 days. . . that often led to more than just a kiss goodnight. But that's for another post. Men admire beautiful women, they always have and always will and I haven't met one that wont look at a hot girl with awe. But this is not something she wants to hear now is it?


2. I will never divulge details about my past relationships. I just feel weird thinking about telling her how I used to go down on other women. But they never stop asking. This is because they are trying to measure up against you past flings and wondering if they give it to you better. Feeding this insecurity by telling her the juicy details will only lead to her feeling more insecure wondering what else with the other ones you haven't told her about yet. I just keep it very brief and shrug off the 1001 questions. There is a book we went through together, it helped me get to know her much better even though I was coy around some of the questions I think it gave her some level of peace. :) Her peace = my peace :)

3. I will never tell her that I sometimes fantasize about other women when we are making love. I guess this goes both ways too. . . I don't think I will like her telling me she is fantasizing about other men when we are making love, but hey, somehow I get asked that question!! Truth is, getting him up for the second time that night after a very long day or a long week is sometimes a little of a challenge. A little extra mental stimulation is required and Jack down stands attention for some fun!

4. I will never tell her that some of things I do around the house and some of the things I do to accommodate her (shopping) are driven by the prospect of having sex with her later. Its a fact, women will generally have sex with you when they are feeling good. If doing the dishes tonight means she can relax and feel good then it means there is much greater chance of us having sex later on. This she does not need to know, she can continue assuming that I am being sweet.

5. I will never tell her how annoying it is to be asked whether she looks fat in that dress. It comes back to the point above. Make her feel good about her dress and her weight and you greatly increase your chances of getting laid after that dinner party you are going to.


There are my five points for now. What secrets do you keep from her?


While on the subject though, here is a book designed to help you two get to know each other better. It is full of questions that you and your partner will take turns asking each other in the never ending journey of getting to know each other. I thoroughly recommend it. Its called 1000 Questions for couples by Michael Webb. Get a copy for yourself. Surprise her with it, trust me, she will love you for it.




Cheers for now.
Ty



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