Secrets Guys Keep From Your Their Partners

It is often preached that as a loving couple in a relationship you should never keep any secrets. Both parties should tell all and bare all. . . But the question is, in reality, is that possible? I have been through this with my partner and she is adamant that we should bare all and read each other like open books. But I know for a fact that there are some things that I wish to keep to myself. Like the fact that once in a while I will download some porn and watch while she is out with the girls or whatever. Lately it has suddenly become very important for her to know every single thing about me. . . I have tried my best to open up but there are the dark spots where no light is ever allowed to shine. And I think that I am not the only guy that feels this way. There are some things that girls are just not allowed to know. And I find that the only reason we hide this stuff from them is simply because we know she will throw a fit about how a jerk you are for checking out chicks while you are out together on a date. Or, how little love you have for her because you sometimes fantasize about doing two chicks at once while you two are making love. . . The only time that a guy can comfortably tell their partner about those dark hidden spots is if the outcome of the conversation doesn't leave you bruised from being kicked in the nuts. And you gotta admit, those are rare. So here is a list of some things that I have not been able to bare for my beloved. You can comment and add some things that you will never divulge.

1. I will never tell her that I sometimes look at and even admire some chick in the mall. Even though I may look, I never touch or do more than just day hi. In my previous bachelor days I would chat up a girl I had just met at the store and we would end up going on a date within 3 days. . . that often led to more than just a kiss goodnight. But that's for another post. Men admire beautiful women, they always have and always will and I haven't met one that wont look at a hot girl with awe. But this is not something she wants to hear now is it?


2. I will never divulge details about my past relationships. I just feel weird thinking about telling her how I used to go down on other women. But they never stop asking. This is because they are trying to measure up against you past flings and wondering if they give it to you better. Feeding this insecurity by telling her the juicy details will only lead to her feeling more insecure wondering what else with the other ones you haven't told her about yet. I just keep it very brief and shrug off the 1001 questions. There is a book we went through together, it helped me get to know her much better even though I was coy around some of the questions I think it gave her some level of peace. :) Her peace = my peace :)

3. I will never tell her that I sometimes fantasize about other women when we are making love. I guess this goes both ways too. . . I don't think I will like her telling me she is fantasizing about other men when we are making love, but hey, somehow I get asked that question!! Truth is, getting him up for the second time that night after a very long day or a long week is sometimes a little of a challenge. A little extra mental stimulation is required and Jack down stands attention for some fun!

4. I will never tell her that some of things I do around the house and some of the things I do to accommodate her (shopping) are driven by the prospect of having sex with her later. Its a fact, women will generally have sex with you when they are feeling good. If doing the dishes tonight means she can relax and feel good then it means there is much greater chance of us having sex later on. This she does not need to know, she can continue assuming that I am being sweet.

5. I will never tell her how annoying it is to be asked whether she looks fat in that dress. It comes back to the point above. Make her feel good about her dress and her weight and you greatly increase your chances of getting laid after that dinner party you are going to.


There are my five points for now. What secrets do you keep from her?


While on the subject though, here is a book designed to help you two get to know each other better. It is full of questions that you and your partner will take turns asking each other in the never ending journey of getting to know each other. I thoroughly recommend it. Its called 1000 Questions for couples by Michael Webb. Get a copy for yourself. Surprise her with it, trust me, she will love you for it.




Cheers for now.
Ty



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How To Build Muscle Fast by Spending Less Time In The Gym

The following is an article by a fellow I hold high esteem for because of his amazing program that has helped me gain muscle mass that I have always wanted. I am all for building muscle mass fast with as little effort possible because life was not meant to be spent in the gym. . . there are much better things to do. . . like chatting up that babe down the street. How better to do that than with a nice, built body! 

By Jason Ferruggia
I’ll never forget my first encounter with “Big Joe.” I had just gotten my driver’s license about a week before, so I was 17 at the time. Up until my 17th birthday, I had been training at our crappy high-school weight room and was counting the days until I could drive myself to the real gym about 15 minutes down the road. I had been training for a few years at that point and was really starting to get obsessed and read everything I could about how to build muscle fast. Of course, I had been doing everything wrong up until that point, but I didn’t know any better. I was convinced that when I was finally able to join Main Street Gym, I would start to grow like a weed.

During my second week there, I saw Big Joe for the first time. I was about halfway through my workout when he walked in. He was massive from neck to calves with a thick goatee, long sideburns, and a mop of curly brown hair. Big Joe stood about 6’4” and had to have weighed close to 300 pounds. At the time, he was in his late 30’s or early 40’s and walked with a slight hitch—I would later find out that it was from an old football injury—but he continued to squat and deadlift on a regular basis.

He was doing standing military presses that day and throwing around 275 like the bar was empty. I couldn’t help but stare as he hoisted the weights up with ease. After every set I did, I would walk to the water fountain just to get a closer look at one of the most jacked guys I had ever seen in person.

Eventually, we crossed paths and he nodded. That was it.

All the gym vets seemed to know him and every few minutes I heard one of them acknowledging his presence.

“What’s up, Big Joe?”

“Big Joe, what’s happening, my man?”

I had to move to another section of the gym to complete the rest of my workout, but I figured I would see Big Joe again when I was done. I was wrong. When I finished my workout, I looked around the gym and Big Joe was gone.

It was about two weeks before I saw Big Joe again. He came in the door right behind me one night and thanked me when I held the door for him. We both went about our business and started our workouts. He was doing bent-over barbell rows that night and had worked up to 405 for a few sets of six.

About halfway through my workout, I had to run to the locker room to get my straps out of my gym bag. When I returned Big Joe, was gone again.

Over time, I started to see Big Joe more and more and began to notice a trend- he was in and out of the gym before most guys were even halfway done with their workouts. He was so much bigger and stronger than everyone else that I figured there had to be something to what he was doing.

Finally, I worked up the courage one day to go up to Big Joe and ask him about his short workouts. I wanted to learn more about how to build muscle fast and I just knew Big Joe was the one to help me.

“Uh, excuse me,” I said.

“What’s up, big man?” Big Joe replied.

“I just wanted to ask you a few questions about training. I notice that your workouts are way shorter than anyone else’s in this entire gym, yet you are bigger and stronger than everyone,” I said.

“Finally caught on there, huh, diesel? That’s the secret right there. If you keep your workouts short, you never overtrain, you recover faster, and you constantly make progress,” Big Joe explained. “Your testosterone output peaks about a half hour into your workout and is completely shot within 45 minutes. So get in and get out in 45 minutes or less and you will get huge. That right there is one of the most important things I can ever teach you about how to build muscle fast.”

From that day on I have kept all my workouts short and have always done so with all of my clients. The results have been nothing short of spectacular. There is no reason to spend your life in the gym. Hit it hard and get out. And get ready for guys to start stepping aside when they see you coming.

Jason Ferruggia is a world famous fitness expert who is renowned for his ability to help people build muscle as fast as humanly possible. He is the head training adviser for Men’s Fitness Magazine where he also has his own monthly column dedicated to muscle building. For more How to Build Muscle Fast tips, check out MuscleGainingSecrets.com