Difference between men and women about SEX

Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex.
 Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.
 Women blame men that they don't know how to love.
 Men blame women that they only talk about love but don't want to make it.

 Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your
 life - finally, you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about the
 opposite gender.

 The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which is
 predominantly male hormone. A normal male's body produces 20 times more of
 this hormone than a female's.

 In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as a
 female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20 days
 feels the same way as a female after more than a year without sex.

 Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of the
 opposite gender. It's NOT their fault: they are made this way!
 It's in our genes! This is the reason why men are men and women are women.

 Men and women are DIFFERENT.
 Not better or worse, just different.

 A man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only
 mother a child every two years or so. This means, a woman HAS TO be picky
 about who she allows to have sex with her.

 For generations women were paying too high a price for making a wrong
 choice. Women that have chosen men with bad genes had a weaker offspring
 and their children struggled to survive. Women that have chosen men with
 good genes had a stronger offspring and their children survived
 disproportionably. Those children were carrying their picky mother's genes
 and this is why those female genes were passed to us.

 On the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a wrong
 choice. The more children they produced, the higher was their chance to
 pass their genes to future generations, as some of them would certainly
 survive. While men were determined to seek better genes too, they had to
 grab all chances to procreate coming their way to ensure their genes would
 be passed forward. The men that ONLY stuck with one woman (even a high
 quality woman) were losing genetically to the men that used all of their
 opportunities and had many more children that survived. Those children
 were carrying their father's promiscuous genes, and this is why those male
 genes were passed to us.

 By Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they can
 spread their seed wider.

 By Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so they
 can make a better choice and get the best seed.

 Men seek quantity - women seek quality.

 This is why men seek sex and women seek love.

 Love is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that the man
 will stick around and help her with the upbringing of the offspring. For a
 woman, sex is the culmination of her emotional commitment to a man.

 For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure he
 experiences constantly. Only after this tension has gone, can a man feel
 love towards a woman. This is why it often happens that men disappear
 after they got what they wanted: it wasn't love; it was the testosterone
 pressure. Sex for men is the reality check of their passion.

 This is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for
 women: the man has not had the time to develop any romantic feelings for
 her. He needs time to develop those feelings, and the only way to do it is
 through keeping the sexual tension going for as long as practicable. Sex
 must be attainable, nearly possible - but not quite.
 When the sexual tension is at its peak, its release is mind-blowing - and
 once is never enough, which lays a proper foundation for a future
 relationship - and love.

 Men fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love.

 All of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize what's
 going on.

 But the reason why you are here today and alive is because each and every
 of your ancestors, men and women, acted true to their instincts and
 managed to attract at least one sexual partner and produce an offspring.

 So, there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women wanting
 love. Those two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called Survival Of
 The Species.

 And you'll be better off understanding what the other gender is going
 through and giving them exactly what they want: mind-blowing sex or

 exhilarating love.

Cheers for now.

Ty.

Secrets Guys Keep From Your Their Partners

It is often preached that as a loving couple in a relationship you should never keep any secrets. Both parties should tell all and bare all. . . But the question is, in reality, is that possible? I have been through this with my partner and she is adamant that we should bare all and read each other like open books. But I know for a fact that there are some things that I wish to keep to myself. Like the fact that once in a while I will download some porn and watch while she is out with the girls or whatever. Lately it has suddenly become very important for her to know every single thing about me. . . I have tried my best to open up but there are the dark spots where no light is ever allowed to shine. And I think that I am not the only guy that feels this way. There are some things that girls are just not allowed to know. And I find that the only reason we hide this stuff from them is simply because we know she will throw a fit about how a jerk you are for checking out chicks while you are out together on a date. Or, how little love you have for her because you sometimes fantasize about doing two chicks at once while you two are making love. . . The only time that a guy can comfortably tell their partner about those dark hidden spots is if the outcome of the conversation doesn't leave you bruised from being kicked in the nuts. And you gotta admit, those are rare. So here is a list of some things that I have not been able to bare for my beloved. You can comment and add some things that you will never divulge.

1. I will never tell her that I sometimes look at and even admire some chick in the mall. Even though I may look, I never touch or do more than just day hi. In my previous bachelor days I would chat up a girl I had just met at the store and we would end up going on a date within 3 days. . . that often led to more than just a kiss goodnight. But that's for another post. Men admire beautiful women, they always have and always will and I haven't met one that wont look at a hot girl with awe. But this is not something she wants to hear now is it?


2. I will never divulge details about my past relationships. I just feel weird thinking about telling her how I used to go down on other women. But they never stop asking. This is because they are trying to measure up against you past flings and wondering if they give it to you better. Feeding this insecurity by telling her the juicy details will only lead to her feeling more insecure wondering what else with the other ones you haven't told her about yet. I just keep it very brief and shrug off the 1001 questions. There is a book we went through together, it helped me get to know her much better even though I was coy around some of the questions I think it gave her some level of peace. :) Her peace = my peace :)

3. I will never tell her that I sometimes fantasize about other women when we are making love. I guess this goes both ways too. . . I don't think I will like her telling me she is fantasizing about other men when we are making love, but hey, somehow I get asked that question!! Truth is, getting him up for the second time that night after a very long day or a long week is sometimes a little of a challenge. A little extra mental stimulation is required and Jack down stands attention for some fun!

4. I will never tell her that some of things I do around the house and some of the things I do to accommodate her (shopping) are driven by the prospect of having sex with her later. Its a fact, women will generally have sex with you when they are feeling good. If doing the dishes tonight means she can relax and feel good then it means there is much greater chance of us having sex later on. This she does not need to know, she can continue assuming that I am being sweet.

5. I will never tell her how annoying it is to be asked whether she looks fat in that dress. It comes back to the point above. Make her feel good about her dress and her weight and you greatly increase your chances of getting laid after that dinner party you are going to.


There are my five points for now. What secrets do you keep from her?


While on the subject though, here is a book designed to help you two get to know each other better. It is full of questions that you and your partner will take turns asking each other in the never ending journey of getting to know each other. I thoroughly recommend it. Its called 1000 Questions for couples by Michael Webb. Get a copy for yourself. Surprise her with it, trust me, she will love you for it.




Cheers for now.
Ty



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